Once you’ve listened and validated your child's feelings (and calmed their amygdala in favour of their prefrontal cortex), you can come up with some practical solutions together.
For NCEA it might be:
So, things aren’t ideal but what is it that you might need from me and the rest of the family so we can make sure that we give you the best shot at it all?
Okay, so let me have a look at your timetable so I can know when to have the rest of the household quiet.
Let’s decide on where the best place might be for you to study and then let’s get it ready.
Let’s look at the list of chores you have to do and see if the rest of us can help you out of with those while you study and sit exams.
Let’s see if I can help you with a study plan if you think that is what you might need.
There is no sugar-coating it – term four looks different than ‘normal’ for all New Zealanders but especially for our whānau in Auckland, and that is challenging for kids and parents alike. What we also know is that our young people are resilient, and supporting them through the difficulties and disappointments of Covid – with grace and connection – will help grow that resilience even more. Study and exams may look different, prize-givings and graduations will surely look different, but they will still be memorable. Maybe they’ll even be more memorable - this pandemic is a moment in history after all! And one day, our grandchildren might even study it as a topic for one of their exams!