Talking to our kids about their expectations around presents – realistic or otherwise – is good for everyone. Short-term benefits include a more joy-filled Christmas Day. Long-term benefits include greater well-being – excessive consumption is proven to be bad for our health!
Okay, let’s get practical. Taking big ideological concepts and reformatting them as kid-friendly conversations is one of the great challenges of parenting. You could start with the difference between needs and wants – needs are the essentials for a healthy life, wants are the lovely extras that are nice to have. You could quiz your kids on what’s a ‘need’ and what’s a ‘want’.
- Fruit and vegetables? Need.
- Chocolate ice cream? Want.
- Sugar-free 100% plant-based sorbet? Grey area.
It’s also helpful to talk about gratitude – not in the ‘You should be grateful you get anything at all’ sense, but with a gentler ‘How fortunate are we to have all these good things’ vibe.
You might want to steer the chat towards consideration of those who don’t have enough, especially at Christmas, and perhaps ask your kids what ideas they have for how your family could help others.
This is really a conversation about perspective and guiding our kids to live gratefully in a culture of consumerism that relentlessly tells them they need more. Kids are deep thinkers. The following questions could set some powerful ideas in motion.
What do we really need to make Christmas awesome?
What are some different things we can do with our money?
What are your favourite Christmas memories from previous years?
What do we really need to make Christmas awesome?
What can we give that could make a difference in someone's life?
How does it affect the planet when we buy stuff? What might eco-friendly shopping look like?
What can we give away that we no longer need (and someone else would actually appreciate), before we get a whole bunch of new stuff?
And, come to think of it, do we really need a bunch of new stuff or would we be better off living with less?