These are dads that present themselves as if don't really like being a dad and they don’t really like their kids either. They can never go out with the boys because of “the bloody kids”. Proudly, they admit that their parenting goal is to be like the dad from Home Alone. Basically they want to be rich enough to go to Paris on holiday and uninvolved enough to forget the odd child every now and then.
I suspect that these dads are actually a lot more involved than they give themselves credit for. Some guys just like to underplay anything that might potentially involve them having emotions, relationships or responsibilities. The problem with this approach is that it doesn’t invite any conversation that might include emotions, relationships and responsibilities. Having spaces to talk about the significant aspects of dad life is one of the best ways to help navigate this whole 'being a dad' thing.
How do you talk to dads about being a dad? Well, don’t present yourself as if you have no worries, and don’t present yourself as if you don’t care at all. Try the middle ground. Try being the ‘some problems’ dad. We can all relate to that.