Self-control is a key to getting along well with others, performing well at school and feeling secure in ourselves. Children who do not have it will display a variety of behaviours that indicate they are not in control of their actions, impulses or feelings. The three year old who has tantrums all day long, the five year old who won’t share the ball, the seven year old who pushes ahead in line, or the nine year old who tips the board game over when on a losing streak.
We do our children no favours when we allow them to seek to satisfy all their desires with no thought of others, or what the ‘right thing’ is. It leaves them feeling inadequate and unhappy at being at the mercy of their own strong feelings and impulses.