I was recently having dinner with friends and a fellow mum was talking about her 20-year-old daughter who had just got a new job. I looked at my friend and exclaimed, “Wait, how are you the mother of a 20-year-old?” And then it hit me, my eldest daughter was about to turn 20. Somehow, I am now the mother of a 20-year-old!
You may have had moments in your parenting journey where well-meaning older folk have told you to cherish these days as the time goes by so fast. I am certainly now living that reality. I heard some researchers on a podcast the other day talking about the fact that most of us will only have 19 years worth of time with our children. Around 18 years until they leave home for potential study or work and then an accumulation of another year throughout their life as an adult. That thought stopped me in my tracks. As a mother of four, with my eldest turning 20 and my youngest at the beginning of her teen years, I am only too aware of how quickly our children become teenagers and then emerging adults.