If you’ve been through divorce, you will know that navigating it is one of life’s most intense challenges. Somehow Gwyneth Paltrow’s expression of ‘conscious uncoupling’ seems to downplay the disruption and sheer agony of a marriage or relationship break-up. Some describe divorce as a tornado that rips through your world leaving a wake of shattered dreams and disappointment. Others experience it as a great relief.
If you’re walking through a divorce, regardless of the circumstances, it is very important that your kids hear your story and that the story is narrated well. For parents, divorce often brings a sting of toxic stress and for kids, divorce is often an unexplainable event that they struggle to comprehend. For both parents and kids, there is seldom a corner that is left unaffected because divorce requires you to renegotiate all aspects of your life – at a time when you are least resourced for it. Friendships, finances, living arrangements and – most crucially – your children, all are significantly affected by divorce.