Strong-willed kids are wonderful, wild and absolutely have the capacity to drive a parent crazy. They're not naturally compliant, nor are they wired to blend in, adjust or see a situation from different angles. Strong-willed kids want to win, they seek out fights and they don't back down easily. They are often quite sensitive and have an enormous need for respect and to be shown dignity.
Mix this type of personality with a two-year-old's natural propensity to exert their will, and you'll get some award-winning feistiness. As part of a child's natural development, arriving at toddlerhood means arriving at a crossroads of needs – the need to let go of their primary caregiver and become a little person of their own, and the need to hold on extra tight. They feel capable (they want to be in charge of choosing their own cup, putting on their own socks and setting the day's agenda), but they still need our constancy and reassuring love at every turn. This tug of war going on in their growing brains can be exhausting for them and for us.
Sensitive toddlers are also easily wounded or alarmed, and a stern tone of voice can be all it takes to set them off. In their flight or fight response, they may escalate their behaviour, which in turn can trigger a bigger response from us as parents.