There are a lot of unexpected ‘firsts’ to be encountered as a parent. The first time your child loses their favourite soft toy, the first time they eat a whole crayon or the first time they swear at the TV. There will be plenty of moments you just won’t be prepared for, but you can be prepared for the day when your child comes home from school and asks for their first phone. You could reply with, “Ask your other parent" or pretend you didn't hear them, or you could actually just be ready with a parenting plan that suits you and your whānau.
One day your child will inevitably say, “Sarah McFederies’ mum gave her a phone because her mum loves her. Why don’t I have a phone? Don’t you love me?” To which you will think, “Why does Mrs McFederies make my life so difficult?” And then you may think, “What do I do? I didn’t have to deal with this as a child.”
It is true that you didn’t have to deal with the implications of technology when you were a child, but you absolutely have to engage with the implications of technology as an adult. Why? Well, because technology has so many implications for your child. That's a lot of implications right there.